Thinking of doing Spirit Medium work? Here are a few example of how it works for me.

Going beyond the mundane  questions like, “relationships, job, and money” people come to mediums for communication to loved ones who have crossed over.  This can be the most rewarding part of this practice while offering the greatest evidence that there is life beyond death.
It is important to remember that someone coming to you for this type of communication is vulnerable.  So you must be honest but offer them hope and faith that things are all ok.
Depending on the situation and the beliefs of the person who is dis-incarnated what you receive as information will be different.  We create personal reality here and in the beyond.  There is a general guideline however.
Generally you get strong communications from someone within the first three days of passing.  After that they can go off to what I call the learning healing center for anywhere from three months to 3 years.  Then they have a choice to make, to go on to the next step, or to remain in the in between and have contact with the earthly realm and those they love.  Some will reincarnate right away.
This general guide line can be altered by traumatic death, injustice, suicide, mental illness, beliefs or lack thereof, substance abuse, head injuries or illness like dementia.  Souls can become lost, stuck, mentally ill, dark energy, or vengeful.  However I have to say that I rarely encounter souls that need anything more than a gentle nudge.
This general guideline can be also altered by advanced or enlightened souls.  Anyone who has been prepared for the crossing and who has concrete strong convictions about their beliefs will expedite this process.
The variety of outcomes from crossing over can be as big as anything you can imagine.
Communication with the dead then becomes a matter of using your guide or helper so that you get some consistency in symbols used.  This is a good time to talk about some different scenarios and why we use our guides to be the go between in the communication to spirit.
Example one:  A women comes to talk to you about her loved one that committed suicide last month.  Now direct connection to that energy on the other side could feel chaotic, depressed, confused and angry.  An empathic medium does not need to experience that nor become connected to that sort of energy.  What your guide will do instead is use symbology to communicate this state to you.  You may see a black rose to symbolize depression in death, or feel a fuzzy sensation on the right side of your head to let you know it was suicide.  It is up to you to get enough experience doing readings to understand what the symbols mean.
In a sense you are creating your own rune, cards, or Ouija board in the ethereal plane.
Example two:  There are times when you will hear words or phrases; you will see things as if you are watching a TV show or movie.  Your guide will present things to you so that you remain detached spiritually and emotionally.  I often hear words or see a clip from a TV show, or historical event.  Recently during a group reading at a metaphysical store I kept seeing James Dean.  Turns out that was something they had talked about and his way of showing proof that it was him talking.  She asked me about ethnic back ground and I found that confusing – I wanted to say black but his skin was white to me.  I said “Native connection?”  She said no – he was black.  I said but the person I see has white skin.  She laughed and said yes he had white shin but he was from a black back ground.  That was a lesson to me.  Next time I will say, “looks like this (white, black, brown, etc) – but I hear the word (African American, Chinese, etc.)”.
Example three:  My guides will give me a heavy feeling in areas of the body I need to note.  Someone who has died from cancer often presents as a heavy feeling in my upper chest, someone who died of stroke will present as a heavy feeling on one side of my head or the other.   Traumatic death I will see as utter chaos – like a disaster movie clip.  Suicides often come as a list of possible scenarios with the word suicide missing.
Example four:  my guides are very good at privacy, and will only give me what I need to communicate to someone in order to get the point across.  So a husbands who has crossed over – and was unfaithful in life will sometime present as a man standing to with his back to the client and watch other women.  Or for example the word cheat will come on a piece of paper being handed to me.  I will rarely get the sorted details of anyone’s life.  You will find that you spend a lot of time describing what you see – without interpreting it.
Example five:  Again – for me, Grandmothers come forward as the intermediate communicators more often than any other person.  Sometimes it has to go back to Great Grandmothers – but they are usually the ones who step forward to bring someone else to the session.
Example five:  Some spirits do not follow rules.  Not that they are evil just that they can harm without knowing what they are doing.  They will be high energy, demanding, and overly expressive.  They are hard to communicate with when behaving like that.  Best to keep your distance.  Remember that you are the one in control, use your protection, and use your guide.  Last psychic fair I had one that just would not settle down.  The client was desperate to talk to him so I stuck with it.  After all that fuss and time spent it turned out he only had one thing to say.  Once that was put out there he just vanished.  Made me feel bad for the lady – but at least the spirit was restful afterwards.
Please note that you need to use extra caution when doing a reading for someone who is drunk or under the influence, or heavily medicated.  It is always ok to say no I cannot work for you today, come back at another time.
After doing this type of communication you will become known on the other side.  It will lead to an increase in your personal spirit activity.  You can always say, “Make an appointment”.  Take note of people who come to you as you may get the client shortly thereafter.

Lost souls will respond to whatever their belief system was based on.  It is not your job to do the work for them. You only need to contact your spirit guides, deities, helpers on the other side.  They do the work for you.  This keeps you detached and healthy.  At times you will need to have another psychic medium help you through a situation, as we are only human.  Just remember if you can imagine it – the scenario probably exists on the other side.  We will get into this in more detail at another time.
There are more than just five examples of this – but that is as many as we are going to talk about today

Ode to the Few (otherwise titled “A kick in the Paradigm Shift”)

Don’t get me wrong, there are a multitude of amazing people in my life – friends, family, clients, teachers, and healers.   All of them are worthy of gratitude and praise just for simply being who they are.

But today’s blog is about the few.

Yes, you know who you are.  The ill-tempered, “I” centered ones who come across of our paths from time to time.  Those who have not woken up yet!  The ones who test our patience, making us stop and battle with redirecting our angry thoughts.  For me I struggle with thinking, “How dare you be soo sooo……”

 Please refrain from uttering their names while you read.

None of us are perfect, and most of us are very aware of that so do not think I am pointing the fingers at any of you.  From time to time we are slow at the uptake, and self-absorbed in our own Shakespearean dramas – know that I am not talking about you either.

I am seriously taking about that rare beast who comes into your life with a phone call or email of nastiness.  The messages that leave you saying, “Where did that come from?”  Then after the interaction you feel it on your soul like black ooze.

For that rare beast I would like to be the one who gives you a kick in the “Paradigm Shift”.  I am going to come from my Spirit Medium side but I know this will resonate with all people in service to others.

As a Medium I am not a super hero.
I have my moments of learning and growth.  I am no different than anyone else in the fact that I get colds, have hard days, go through my monthly cycle, have a dysfunctional family life in my past, feel overwhelmed at times, and yes take a vacation from time to time!  The list could go on and on.  Here is the bottom line.  “I could not do what I do as a medium and healer if I did not have the experiences which gave me the “wisdom” to help others.”  

Most Mediums are not hypocrites, and by that I mean when we say we understand – it means we have had firsthand experiences.   In fact one of the reason I trust myself to help others along is because of those rough patches in life, and the work I have done on my spiritual path to overcome them.  We are not super heroes, we are just people who have done the work to move forward on the path we are on.  When a Medium gets a question they don’t stop till there is an answer that resonates.  Simple – really and something that anyone can do for themselves.

(Puts my winter boot on to prepare for the kicking)

So when those few leave a message, or email that talks of us not being available for them, or wants something done yesterday know that you do not have my sympathy.  If one of those rare beasts happens to read this blog I want you to know the following.

It is not about you.  If you are mad at me because I did not return your call by the time you thought I should – “take a breath”.  99% of the time it is because I cannot return your call yet and NOT because you are less than.  If you emailed me and didn’t hear back – just try again.  You would not believe how many times people put the wrong email address or phone number in the Contact Me feature of my website and as a result never hear back from me.

It is not about you but remember – 

I will not return your call if you are rude to me.  I will not help you if you are demanding.  I will deleted and not respond to mean emails.

I will put up protection, and ask for divine intervention so that you can find your way into the light and learn from your mistake.  I will go out of my way to assist the next person who contacts me with all my heart.  I will make sure that the path of destruction you are on does not affect the people I care about to the best of my ability.

I will expect that others would do the same for me if I were to be in your shoes.

In 2013 with the new 5th dimensional energies I find no reason for anyone to feel entitled.  Including myself.  Let go of your judgments, do good as you do for yourself, and above all else remember that if you are experiencing distress, stress, hurt, drama in your life you are most likely going to draw others to you that are experiencing the same thing.

So to the Few – you know who you are.  Just deal!

Question: Can anyone become a Medium?

It is often said that Mediums are “born not createdso at time’s people question their ability to develop mediumship skills. 
Here are my thoughts on this, and they are not necessarily those of the greater spiritualist community. Remember there is gratification in having control…

I teach mediumship development and I will take on anyone who wants to learn. If mediumship at its roots is defined as the ability to communicate with the dead and offer proof of life after death then I know with 100% certainly that all people can be mediums.

Often I see people’s belief system standing in the way of their development… Know that if you think you can – you will!

However abilities will manifest in unique and individual ways depending on your interests, meditation skills and natural talents. An example of this would be with that of a healer. You will find your skills grow faster when applying mediumship to your healing practices.

In case you missed that let me clarify – anyone who is a healer is also tapping into and using there mediumship abilities. Most healers are also channels.

The Clar. abilities you have a predisposition for set the stage for how your mediumship skills develop. Your communication from spirit can be a Seeing, a Knowing, a Sensing, a Sound, or a Scent. One of the most common communications from spirit is a smell of perfume, or tobacco.  One of the least common is communication through a sense of taste (Clairgustance).

All of us come into this life with a main Spirit Guide, and a Guardian Angel. We communicate with these beings on the other side as a matter of course. Some of us will never acknowledge the interaction outside of dreams but I also know from my experiences that the communication will happen anyway. If all of us have Spirit Guides and Angels we communicate with on a daily basis then it is not a far reach to see that we are all Mediums.

The society and culture that we are arising from has been one where communication with spirit and the other side was in the hands of a chosen few. The more we wake up and recognize our latent powers then more connect we will become to our true nature.

It takes practice and work to become a medium that can do` readings for others or act in service to the community. There are as many different types of Mediums as you can imagine. Remember as my main guide says, “work on the skills you have strength in and when you are completely developed in that area you will begin on a new skill”.

Oh and in-case you didn’t know Meditate, Meditate, Meditate!

Okanagan Medium – June 16, 2013

A look at Fear

George sits at his desk unable to concentrate on his work.  All he can think about is something he heard said about him at lunch.  No one knows he heard and he will not talk about it to anyone.  Now all he can do is sit and look like he is working while he mentally plays out his anger.

Does this cycle sound familiar to you?  Do you find there are repeat patterns in your life where you become stressed, isolate yourself and keep it secret?  

It may surprise you to know that this is how fear manifests and manipulates our lives.

Seven signs you need to work on fear:

  1. You are vulnerable to others.
  2. You feel a little out of sync with friends and family.
  3. You have the idea that no one understands you.
  4. Your mind looks for ways to defend and protect in most social situations.
  5. You don’t really know who the authentic version of you is.
  6. Most of your health issues revolve around stress.
  7. You find it hard to act lovingly towards yourself.

Most situations in life that create fear are based on labeling, judgment and the need to control others.  Here are a few ways to manage fear:

  • Be still and just observe.  Take a moment to walk in someone else’s shoes.  Be good at reading others body language and become good at expressing yourself with yours!
  • React with compassion towards those who are negative in any way.  It diffuses and disarms the situation.  Be able to walk away without attachment to outcome.
  • Remember assertiveness really just means you can be articulate.  You have the ability to explain things so others understand – even if they do not agree.
  • Take a close look at who you feel attracted to interact with.  Are you surprised at what your instincts tell you?
  • Take time to know yourself.  You will be surprised at how many things change when you become really authentic with your likes and dislikes.  Trust that this does not put anyone out – instead it will shift who relates to you on a heart level.
  • Make yourself your first best friend by being loving and compassionate to you.  Don’t be afraid to let your emotions be felt by yourself and others.  This of course does not mean acting out in anger; it does however mean acknowledging your anger.  Remember in kindergarten when you were told to use your words?  That is still true today.  The more you are happy and familiar with your emotional body, the more you will find it does not get blocked up and explode out of necessity.

Fear comes from programming that happened way before we had a voice to do anything to protect ourselves from it.  Our society today is fear based.  It is easier to be controlled when you living with fear.  The beauty is that as adults we can find that voice and again and recover missing joy in life.  How do you really get passed fear?  You do it by enlisting love, compassion, will and laughter.